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Are you the Reason for Your Failure?

Many animals engage in deception, or deliberately misleading others, but only humans are wired to deceive both themselves and others. Well some call it an awesome gift from God as little self deception is necessary for achievement. They are the ones who believe in the dictum fake it till you make it. Leading them in the year 2009 is President Obama with his rhetoric, "Yes I can." 
 
It is a real shocker to see performers at shows like Indian Idol and Nach Baliye show utter surprise when they are rightfully send back by the judges because of lack of necessary skills in the initital rounds. Probably they carry a false self‐image. May be their lies to themselves is based on the inaccurate feedback which other people might have given them or it may be just overconfidence (self perception bias), but whatever the reason might be, it is a pity that they carry such wrong impressions about themselves. 
 
Self deception, as glamorous as it may sound, is a double edged sword, with its other edge the troublesome one probably being sharper. Lies told to self keep us from taking required action, astray us are self‐defeating. They block our way to success. 
 
9 Most Common Lies Which People Tell to Themselves 
 
It's who you know 
 
You will find people telling that it is very important to have a network of your own. You should be well connected to people in position to make your way ahead in this frenetic life. But the truth is that it is what you do will get you success. Who you know can and will matter only if you do something. Who you know is nothing but a lie, what you do with who you know is the important thing. 
 
There's something wrong with me 
 
Failure and success keep tossing in the wheel of time. Every time one fails, it is not necessary that she was solely responsible to it. When people fail they either ascribe external causes for their failure or internal causes. The first ones would say that the situations got out of control while the second one would put it as, "It was due to my own shortcomings." But saying something as, "I am a total failure" would be just lying to oneself and finding an easy way out. It does not help one to rebounce and win. And even if one is not good at a particular task or could not achieve a specific target that does not make him a failure. 
I'd love to do that but I don't have time 
 
There are some limitations under which humans live and one of it is time. There is never enough of it with anyone. People who succeed have somehow someway managed to find time for the things that they loved to do. So it is not lack of time but a lack of commitment. When a person's enthusiasm outgrows the bounds of laziness, when his desire flares above the walls of procrastination, one will 
 
find lots of time to devote to his new found love. The key word in life is prioritizing and focusing on the things you love to do. 
 
Winning lottery would solve everything 
 
If only my business was a big venture would I have really enjoyed the blessings of life. How many times we have heard people think and say things like these. Well, quality of life is determined by internal happiness and your external circumstances just support it. Money can buy many things but it cannot buy you happiness. If one is earning enough to feed himself and his family and still sees money as an impediment to his happiness then he is grossly lying to himself. 
 

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